What does a person stalking in the net in an anonymous forum think when she insults, har etc?

Wow, the person your describing needs help in the worse way. I would think that you could suggest to your friend that he copies everything she sends or says about him. If he does know how to get in touch with her even if she has played the victim card her family can see for themselves that she's not acting like a victim. Any woman that is married and has children is an unhappy person who could take out her problems on the kids. Your friend is an adult so at least he can take it. If her husband can't or won't stop her harment then perhaps the police could. Tell her that anyway and to find someone else to vent on. Other than changing his on line account...and reporting it to his local server I don't see any other solutions but I would be happy to help if there is anything I could do let me know. Hope you have a nice day and take care of yourself.